According to the dictionary, perspective is the ability to perceive things in their actual comparative importance. And by looking at the past, you are thus able to gain perspective on the present. But what is the point of gaining an accurate point of view if you don’t have the ability to see it for what it is? If you get lost in the details, you then lose the sense of the larger whole. You are ignoring the obvious. You miss the key point. You have tunnel vision.
In other words, if you are to solve something, don’t get hung up on all the small details. Look at the big picture. Keep everything realistic and in the order of its worth. When I become overwhelmed with the small stuff, I find I am wasting more time worrying about what I have no power to change or how it got there in the first place. It is already too late. It’s there. I have to deal with it. So deal with it, I do.
I have two choices. I can either accept it or not. If it is to my dislike or detriment, I usually choose to make the change. I have also learned that by taking evasive measures after gaining some perspective, I can alter going down that road again. In other words, I try not to make the same mistake twice. You do have choices and doing something is far better than doing nothing. So you may fall on your face. So you embarrass yourself. You get frustrated. Big deal. Make changes.
One thing you don’t want to do is to feel sorry for yourself. Mistakes happen. You correct them. You learn from them. You move on, even if others refuse to let you forget them. You see, I have learned that is a good thing, not a bad thing. Let them keep reminding you of your past mistakes, as long as you have learned something from them and try not to repeat them. You are gaining perspective in the long run. Trust me. That is a good thing.
Don’t let anyone else set your goals or your limitations. Don’t accept second best. Keep striving for the best, the best for you, that is. Stay singularly focused on what is right for you and what you are most happy with. Don’t let other people tell you how to live your life according to their perspective. Make it yours. One you can live with.
If you have read my books in my Samantha Jamison Mystery Series, The Puzzle, Without Any Warning, 86 Avenue du Goulet, A Lethal Time, Mouth Of The Rat, Death Knell In The Alps, No Hope In New Hope, The Lush Life, Too Close For Comfort, and Saving Sindia you will notice that my protagonist, Samantha Jamison, (Sam for short) continually learns the meaning of real changes. She learns perspective, doesn’t let anyone set her limitations, or tell her she can’t do something. Even if she fails, she tries. She questions her motives. She is constantly learning that even though the small details may be important, it’s the big picture that finally gives you the answers. She’s human. She makes mistakes. She gets embarrassed doing or saying stupid things that seem to happen and complicate her life.
She is continually gaining perspective. And so am I.
Chase your dreams and remember, everyday is a blessing.